Monday, April 6, 2009

A Parents guide to choosing a Martial Arts School

A (much) shorter version of this article was published in print version of the Redmond Reporter on Friday April 3rd. I hope you find it helpful!
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You’ve decided: It’s time for my child to study a martial art.
Now, how do you find the right school? That depends upon your goals and your child’s personality and age. Take time to do some research. Talk with other parents, and search the Internet to locate potential martial arts programs that will meet your needs. As you search, keep these factors in mind.

What is your goal?

Most parents enroll their children in martial arts because they want two things: life skills training and some basic self-defense skills. They want their child to develop discipline, respect, focus, self-control, and self-esteem, while learning to channel some of that boundless energy in a constructive way. Parents of preschool and elementary students may also be looking for basic classroom and social skills.

Be aware that your child’s goals may not be the same as your goals. Try to find the areas of overlap, so you can find the school that is the best fit for your family.

Some of other goals might be: gold medal tournament competition, earning a black belt, doing better at school, dealing with a bully, learning to respect others, better physical fitness, or more self-confidence. Rank your goals in order of importance.

What is your child’s personality? Bold or reserved? Already focused, or needs focus? Aggressive or non-aggressive? Competitive or non-competitive? Does your child have special needs? If personality is a factor in enrolling your child in a martial arts program, be sure to discuss this when you call the school for information.

What is the school’s focus? Winning tournaments, teaching the art, or developing better people? Is the art competitive or non-competitive? Is competition required? If so, how often? What is the expense?

Does the school offer a strong children’s program? Many martial arts schools have a strong adult program and a smaller children’s program. A few specialize in children’s instruction. What is the youngest age student accepted? If they accept Preschool and KG students, is the instruction age-appropriate? What are the class sizes, and instructor to student ratio? Do they have beginner’s classes, mixed skill level classes, or both? Do they offer class times that will meet your family’s needs? How many days a week is the commitment? Is there a contract or is the program month-to-month? Can you start any time, or only at certain times? When it’s time to leave the program, what is the procedure?

Instructor’s background. Will the class be taught by the same person each time? What is their background – not just in the martial art, but as a teacher? Do they have a special skill set that will help them with your child? If your child has special needs, are they comfortable with that?

Time to Visit
Please don’t enroll in a program without trying out a class first. You will gain a wealth of information simply by walking in the door that first time. Here’s a checklist:

Location. Is it reasonably convenient and close to home? Will the traffic that time of day discourage you from attending?

Instructor. How do you, your child, and the instructor get along? Does the trial class stay on track? How is classroom discipline handled? Does your child come out of class happy and excited? Is the teacher still happy and enthusiastic after class, or frustrated and worn out?

Cleanliness. A martial arts school might smell like sweaty bodies, but it shouldn't reek! Does the classroom and waiting area meet your personal standards of cleanliness? Are there tissues and sanitary hand wipes available? Is the mat easy to clean? Vinyl mats are easier to clean if children have an accident.

Did your student like it? If you like it and your child likes it, you have an easy choice. If not, you’ll have to decide what weight to give your child’s preference. Some children hate anything new and need two to three months to become comfortable. Use your best judgment based on your knowledge of your child.

What about Price? Price is important to your budget, but not the primary reason you should choose a school. Most schools in our area are within the same price range, and any differences in price will tend to reflect the cost of rent in each location.

Remember: Call first, then visit the schools you’re still interested in. Most local martial arts programs will offer a free trial class, just ask!

Change Yourself: notes from March Class with Ikeda Shihan

This was originally sent as an email to my students on March 9th.
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I spent some time this evening reflecting on what I learned from Ikeda Shihan this weekend, with the goal of passing on some part of that information to you.

We spent our time studying physical and energetic aspects of Aikido, most of which I can barely comprehend, much less teach. These high level classes can be very mysterious. However, Ikeda Shihan based most of what he was trying to teach us on this simple direction:

"When you are in a conflict, don't try to change the other person,
change yourself."

Well, if we would all work on doing that as best we can, then we wouldn't need much other Aikido would we? If you need some ideas on how to go about doing that, I'm available for further discussion. ;-)

-- With Love, Teacher Nancy Churchill
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